Promote Women Within

Happy New Year everyone! WOW ~ a new year, new beginnings, possibly new friends, new loves (meaning a hobby, a precious baby, or your first home purchase). With each year we shed the old and bring on the new. Perhaps some of you are shedding bad health and deciding you are going to be healthy; or you have shed living in debt and have become debt free. Whatever you are gaining new in 2015, remember to be Thankful for the old.  The countdown has already begun!

Having a baby out of wed-lock can be a load to bear as well as raising them alone! It's not foolish to wait until you get married to have sex. It is foolish to have sex before you get married! You ask, why should you get married before sex? We are creating a generation of children who do not know how to have healthy relationships as well as instilling in them respect, morals and values. It's also necessary to have two people in a relationship; because one compliments the other in raising children, educating your children, and loving your children so they too can pass on the family values! There is no such thing as old-fashion parenting! To value your child's well being, education, spiritual growth and health is not a thing of the past. By marrying in the presence of God and man, before anyone has sex and children, it will drastically reduce sexual diseases, illegitimate children, parental neglect, and government assistance. We make mistakes in life, but c...

"I really need to get back in school, but I cannot make up my mind in what field I would like to major in. I know who will have the answer ~ my Mom", the husband says. "Oh OK", the wife says. "I will be glad to help you." The husband responds, "Naw, I'll talk to my Mom about it."  When we value Mom/Dad’s opinions over our wife’s than we devalue our wife; and again if we value Mom/Dad’s opinion over our husband’s than we devalue our husband.  Mom/Dad, best friend, girlfriend, etc. are not who you need to confide in for answers to decisions in your marriage ~ or your personal business. How about existing burdens that was in place before he/she made the commitment to marry; such as child support, student loans, back taxes, credit card bills, etc. Nope, when you marry, again, you become one, and everything is the responsibility of the husband and wife. So if you feel you do not want to enter into a union that has baggage, then remembe...

How many of you would be willing to turn the TV off for a month and find other ways to be entertained and resourceful? The assignment will be instead of looking at the TV for your ideal lifestyle, look outside your door. How then can you be entertained and resourceful? Smiling at someone, assisting someone with housework who is recovering from cancer or cooking some meals for a single Mother who just had her second baby are some ways we can do the will of God. If you are financially blessed, pay a light bill for someone for a month. God is not asking you to judge them or say, “They can get up off their lazy butt and work like I can and pay their own light bill!” He’s asking you to make a difference and be an example instead of small talk that means nothing. We look to TV for our clothes, relationships, the ideal woman we want to be (comparing ourselves to other women; which is a NO-NO), the financial status we would like to have, and in our minds, the easy way of liv...

Rudolph the Red-Nose Reindeer, Santa Clause is Coming to Town, Here Comes Santa Clause ~ I just want to name a few of the songs our children are singing today. Many of them do not know The Drummer Boy, O Come all Ye Faithful, Silent Night, We Three Kings, or Joy to the World ~ which are songs that speak of Christ~ the words also speak of the Joy the Christians felt at His birth. We have gone so far in left field, no one appreciates nor have been introduced to these songs about a Savior born to save us from our selfish, destructive ways ~ And we are becoming selfish and destructive - - - whether to our selves or to our country. All is not lost. It can be restored; just begin with less receiving and more giving, fellowship with neighbors, and daily read the bible. Good should prevail over evil! Christ wasn’t born for naught! And while they were there, the time came for her delivery, And she gave birth to her Son, her Firstborn; and she wrapped Him in swaddlin...

All of the young teenage ladies who are all but collapsing daily with being in competition (not with other women, men, or even celebrities), but with themselves. Evaluate yourself and yourself only! Take a long good look at you! Who are you anyway? Ask yourself that question, and if you for one second hesitate, then you don’t know who you truly are. If you answer quickly with I am _________________and fill in your name; that’s not what I am asking. We put on clothes with what the world wears, we put on makeup with what the world wears; we put on images of what the world portrays! But is it really you? Many of you are probably frustrated by now wondering where I am going with this. Are you clothed in peace? If you work at being peaceful, you will very seldom have conflicts, doubts, chaos, and disruption. Are clothed with Love? The bible says, “Perfect Love cast out fear!” (I John 4:18);  which means God loves us perfectly, with no conditions and when we love him als...

Father I ask for forgiveness from you and ALL of those whom I have hurt; those I remember and  those I don’t. I pray in Jesus name that moving forward, I pray first about EVERYTHING AND for EVERYONE unto You before I decide to take anything into my own hands. I truly need Your helping hand upon me at ALL times, so that I can love the way you love, show compassion the way you show compassion and pray the way you pray in order to keep peace and be peaceful! In Jesus Name I pray! And so it is!

This is so important and necessary, so necessary that I’m going to emphasize relationships again; this time more direct! In an intimate relationship we enter into; our concept is to change the other person to be like us or to our liking .  We don’t like the way they dress, we don’t like the way they eat, we don’t like the way they throw their clothes in the floor, or we are serious and they like to tease and laugh! When you try to put magnets together that are alike, you can force it all you want and they will not come together; however, if you put magnets together that are opposite, they connect instantly! I do not own the rights to this photo  I have also attempted to change someone before God made me realize I had faults too. When we focus on someone else’s faults, it takes the attention off of ourselves ~ or so we think. I know when I am around someone who is constantly degrading someone else; my attention is actually on the person who is pointing the fin...

So you got into an argument again with your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, whoever, your significant other is. I know when I was married, it was not enjoyable to always be in conflict ~ unkind words, punches being thrown, holes in the walls, etc.  A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare. (Proverbs 15:1 NLT) Constant conflict wears you down, hurts, and also causes health problems as well as being unhealthy. If there is strife and confusion (arguing and hurtful name calling, and back biting) in your home,  you are allowing Satan in your house and he enjoys seeing your home being destroyed. (I also understand that hurting people hurt other people, whereas, we cannot keep holding on to our past and expect to have a prosperous future) As the Word says the thief comes only to kill, steal, and destroy ;  and Christ said, I came that you may have life and have it in abundance to the full until it overflows  (John 10:10) . I knew I c...

"Did you see that young girl come to church wearing that revealing dress?" Someone said during service. Maybe, just maybe that's all she had to wear. She came to the right place for love, acceptance and a kind word! However, fiery arrows were being shot at her from every angle.   Many of our young teens and women already feel vulnerable and to come to church; however she is dressed is the first step to her life being transformed! So the next time you see a young lady dressed (in your eyes as inappropriate) give her a smile and tell her she is beautiful! Then, your light will shine ~ just the way God intended it to! nor does anyone light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house.  "Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven. Matthew 5:15,16

I’m not sure if any of you are familiar with the show “Deals”, hosted by Kat Cosley on Live Well Network (LWN); however, I enjoy watching that show and just last week, I had a revelation of virtuous women. Many of them were married and had anywhere from three to seven children. They were being filmed because these innovative (some were stay at home Moms ) Mothers found ways to cut the cost of buying their children’s clothes and toys ~ so the money they did save, went towards food-----which they too had creative ways to save and fill up their freezers and refrigerators! The website was established after a Mother realized her children were in onesies one minute and jeans and t-shirts the next. As a Mother, I truly can relate to that. Anyway, after viewing the website, I found out that those who want to join can only buy a sack of items twice and after that, they have to post clothes and toys of their own to swap. Another requirement is the toys and clothes being swapped are in very g...

Alright ladies, how many of you have a gym membership? Well I don’t either! Hahahahahaha! I bet you thought I was going to say, I do, but nope! Do not give me that excuse as a reason not to exercise and get your luscious body in tip top shape! No, we probably won’t have our high school figure - - --It’ll be better and healthier than high school. Where there’s a will, there’s a way! If you have cable, you have exercise TV, if you have full milk jugs (well gallon milk jugs are a bit too heavy, so start with something lighter), water bottles, canned food that is anywhere from 1lbs to 2lbs, you have weights.  And the fun part is coming - - -READY? -----------You cannot start an exercise plan without a lifestyle change in your eating! And healthy eating does not have to be bland or boring. It’s no fun when Thanksgiving is coming up and we know, we will eat out of control and over indulge! So, early Thanksgiving morning, get up, (of course I know many of you will be coo...

Start your engines! Get ready! Ten, nine, eight, seven, six, five, four three, two, one ~ BLAST OFF!  OOOPs I meant to say "GO"! Funny huh? Shows how some of us women are NOT into auto racing at all! Or are we? Check out the humorous comic below: Things got out of hand while admiring each other and before they knew it, they were NOT going the speed limit, but wwwaaaaaayyyy under it! I got tickled because if you look closely the two police women are on scooters!  I could not pass this up because in this day and age, we move too fast, too soon, and regret years down the road of our choices in a man or a woman and end up in divorce, resentment against the other sex, and even cynical! In a relationship do not begin, with BLAST OFF, and continue our generation of broken up and brokenness~ begin slow, unless God says otherwise, so you can understand men as well as women are different from each other (opposites attract); and none of us are perfect and will have faul...

This is my story, and by all means, it is not posted for sympathy of any kind; but to demonstrate how God's love and healing  has sustained me through it all  ~ and it's available to you also. He loves you and has a wonderful plan for your life as well as mine! I have been divorced for almost 14 years and the first thing I want to say is, "No" I am not bitter about marriage or men. Even though I experienced physical and mental abuse, it is important in any union that is long or unhealthy, to heal physically, spiritually, and mentally. Well that process has taken longer for me than other people; however, I have experienced additional attacks to my body that has prolonged the process! Even though it has been daunting; I would not give up on God ~ or give in to Satan! I had a severe sun allergy for 18 years ; and yes, I had to live with my blinds closed during the day, wear long sleeves year round, wear hats, carry umbrellas, and pretty much stay in a dark,...

Amazing Grace (My Chains are Gone) Amazing grace How sweet the sound That saved a wretch like me I once was lost, but now I'm found Was blind, but now I see 'Twas grace that taught my heart to fear And grace my fears relieved How precious did that grace appear The hour I first believed My chains are gone I've been set free My God, my Savior has ransomed me And like a flood His mercy reigns Unending love, amazing grace The Lord has promised good to me His word my hope secures He will my shield and portion be As long as life endures Amazing Grace! It’s not only a classic spiritual hymn, but truly read the words of this hymn and meditate on its meaning! It’s not easy being unemployed, chronically ill, abused, homeless, and divorced, just to name a few; and I know I have not listed quite a bit of holes or valleys we get into and feel as if we are not going to get out. But think again. Who created all things, including you? Since he created you, don’t y...

Father Thank you for healing; and healing me of the sun allergy I have had for 18 years, Thank you for building strength in me daily to continue the journey you have set before me! Thank you for building character in me, so I am able to walk in Your ways! Thank you Father for teaching me patience and determination through all of the trials I have been going through! Thank you Father for giving me understanding of your word; which is sharper than any two edged sword! Thank you Father for showing me compassion, so I can have compassion for others! Thank you Father for your son Jesus Christ, who suffered for my sins! Thank you Father for your Love, so that I can show Love to others! Thank you Father for the plans you already have for me; plans to prosper me and give me hope! Thank you Father for family and friends, who are saved to do the work of the the Kingdom; which is to increase the laborers by our actions of love! Thank you Father for life everlasting! Amen! So be it!  ...

Morals (n) - a person's standards of behavior or beliefs concerning what is and is not acceptable for them to do. Values (n) - a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life. I overheard this conversation five years ago: Woman 1:  “Hey girl, how are you doing? Woman 2:  “Hey - - I’m fine girl! I haven’t seen you in years. How many children do you have now”? Woman 1:  “I have four! Woman 2:  “All by the same man? Woman 1: “Girl no! I ain’t that crazy yet”! Woman 2:  (laughs) “Well it was good talking to you”! Woman 1:  “You too! I’ll holler at ya later! Woman 2:  “Alright”! “You take care”! My first reaction was, “Oh Wow”! What does she mean by, “I ain’t that crazy yet”! I pondered on this for a long time after I heard it and I'm still bothered by it today. Morals and values do not change and God does not change; yet our worldly behavior is forever changing in a way that cont...