As I have observed
having babies out of wedlock, there is a separation that is causing
destruction between the child, and parents. The Mother is complaining
she is not getting enough child support or any at all, the Father is
complaining he has to pay child support and can't live comfortably because
it's taking all his money! The devil is busy! He puts things in other
people's heads that is not true, and we as a society jump right in
line and do what Satan describes over what God has laid the
foundation of what a family should be.
Satan says, “Have
sex, nothing will happen”! God says, “Wait on the Lord: be of
good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on
the Lord”. (Psalm 27:14 KJV)
This is not God's plan
for us to be in strife ALL the time! This is the works of the Devil.
Now think about it! You have no peace, no help, no security, and no
money – well some have little money, but still it's not enough to
keep the bills going and take care of the household.
I am divorced and have
reaped the devastation of a single income verses two incomes. When I
was married, there was NEVER NOT enough. We worked as a team, bills
were paid, car notes were paid, and mortgage was paid. I have to say,
I knew in my heart that it was going to be a struggle, so I didn't
get a divorce until my children were almost out of the house, and
even then, I have struggled financially, and it has affected my
children also. So if you think I am speaking from speculation, think
again. It's not a walk in the park to continue to have babies and
everyone, including you suffers because of carelessness and
selfishness of a mishap that could have been prevented.
As I have mentioned, I
was married and we had two children from the union. What women are
doing now is devaluing themselves and accepting mediocrity. YES, it
is way less than God's best for you. I know I didn't have the talk
from my parents of how valuable I am to God and how much He loves me
enough for me to wait for God to place that right man in my life, as
well as molding that right man for me! Nor did I have that with my
children; but they did have a biblical foundation. And what I mean by
that is they were brought up reading the bible, as well as going to
church; because I was their Sunday School Teacher for ten years!
Now that I know and
understand God's ways is the best way and how much He does bless a
marriage and the children, I will have that talk with my
Grandchildren or at least instill it in their parents to have it with
them. I want to share a message in the bottle I was very blessed to
read and hold dear to my heart from the Author, Pastor Levi Lusko that
he told to his daughter:
Hold out for honor.
You are worth more than you
know. You are created in the image of God, and your value exceeds
that of rubies or diamonds.
You
are loved, and you are lovely. You are appointed and anointed to rule
and reign with God as royalty. You are the head and not the tail; you
are from above and not beneath. You are a leader, not a follower.
Don't rush, don't hurry, and don't settle! Let God prepare you, and
believe that He is also preparing someone for you.
No
matter what is behind you, from this day forward, embrace God's plans
for you. (Swipe Right:
The Life and Death Power of Sex and Romance by Levi Lusko)
I
am still single and knew from my divorce that I needed to heal
spiritually, physically, and mentally, and I am holding out for
honor, as well as letting God prepare me for someone as well as
preparing someone for me!