Afterthought!

So what qualities are you looking for in a potential wife or husband? Seriously think about that question before you answer it! Those who are born again believers should not hesitate or stumble with an answer!

It’s becoming more and more prevalent in our society that we do not consider the words “Love” and “Commitment”! The word I am going to use, I feel, is how the world chooses a mate is “Lust”! We look at the outer appearance and have no knowledge of what lurks inside! It’s like taking a beautiful piece of fruit, and once you cut it open, the inside has rotted! True beauty radiates from the inside out! 

My son, be attentive to my Wisdom [godly Wisdom learned by actual and costly experience], and incline your ear to my understanding [of what is becoming and prudent for you], ² That you may exercise proper discrimination and discretion and your lips may guard and keep knowledge and the wise answer [to temptation]. ³ For the lips of a loose woman drip honey as a honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil; ⁴ But in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged and devouring sword. ⁵ Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold of Sheol (Hades, the place of the dead). ⁶ She loses sight of and walks not in the path of life; her ways wind about aimlessly, and you cannot know them. ⁷ Now therefore, my sons, listen to me, and depart not from the words of my mouth. ⁸ Let your way in life be far from her, and come not near the door of her house [avoid the very scenes of temptation], ⁹ Lest you give your honor to others and your years to those without mercy, ¹⁰ Lest strangers [and false teachings] take their fill of your strength and wealth and your labors go to the house of an alien [from God]—¹¹ And you groan and mourn when your end comes, when your flesh and body are consumed, ¹² And you say, How I hated instruction and discipline, and my heart despised reproof! (Proverbs 5:1-12 AMP)

Although the woman who was caught in the act of adultery was not named, many believe it was Mary Magdalene, whom Jesus cast out seven demons from her (Luke 8:2); and who anointed Jesus with expensive oil at the Last Supper (John 12:1-8)!

None of us have the power or authority to judge another and Jesus proved that when He said, “He who is without sin shall cast the first stone”! (John 8:7) A loose woman mentioned in the bible is as bitter as wormwood and sharp as a two-edged devouring sword. (Proverbs 5:4) She is filled with wrong motives and self gratification that will only benefit her!

Wrong motives drive us into wrong actions! He is handsome, or she is built nice should not be your driving force to pursue him or her! Initially we do not delve deep enough in a person’s life to unveil what is hidden! Ask questions and date them awhile before you make that leap!   Emotions should never lead us, because it proves our weaknesses and instability! Neither should riches!

Satan gets in our thoughts and minds, but he has no authority or power to keep you in that lifestyle! Yet, many settle there! When Mary poured that expensive oil (that was valued as a year’s wages) on Jesus’ feet before His crucifixion, it symbolized “Thanksgiving” of His forgiveness of her sins and her freedom from bondage! In addition, the oil used was in preparation of His body for the sacrificial death He was to endure!  

So how do you choose a spouse you can stay committed to and love them the way God loves you? You pray about it and believe God will give you that person in His timing! 

If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, you will ask what you desire, and it shall be done for you.(John 15:7 NKJV)