The Dating Game!

How do you treat your spouse at home? Do you treat him/her with contempt, disgust, or rudeness? Do you take all of your frustrations out on him/her after you treated a stranger, who just cussed you out for accidentally bumping into them, with respect? Or do you ignore them; expect them to console you after a bad day?  Do you enter the door being very obnoxious and expect empathy?

Think back when you two first met. The man would send flowers and dine the young lady and the young lady was overtly sweet and kind. You treated each other with respect and would find ways to keep the peace and prosper the relationship. You truly worked at making the relationship work! What changed?

Pride, arrogance, they have become insignificant to you, or it could be you have adopted the world’s view of what a relationship is! The world (Satan’s domain) views it as: It should not be in agreement, arguing is normal, and looking down on your spouse, allowing someone else to put them down in your presence is acceptable; and in constant search of something better! When you do seek out the “idea” man/woman that you feel is the best ever, you’re still not content!

Once again, recall when you first laid eyes on that special someone! What were you feeling? Were you fearful, confident, in doubt? You were probably not overly confident; because you did not know how the other person would receive you!

Since the young man approaches the young lady; most men are in a panic stage. His heart is racing, his palms are sweaty, and his mouth is so dry, he feels as if his tongue weighs about 2 lbs. Rejection hurts; so what if he gets rejected? Then what? Well he attempts it anyway! This time, the beautiful woman he sought after, receives him with open arms! It could be consciously or subconsciously, he asked God to give him the courage and ability to impress her and keep her in his life!

Now, I have your attention! You called on God to help you and when He did, you received what you wanted. After the marriage, you stepped away from God (You ignored the fact you asked God for help or you felt you didn’t need Him from this point forward)! Whatever the scenario; the relationship is failing miserably! You are putting the blame on the other person; and refusing to take responsibility for your own actions – Remember there are two people in a relationship – well three! That’s what changed!

Put God back into the relationship, keep God in the relationship; and you will have success after success in it! 

5 You know that He appeared in visible form and became Man to take away [upon Himself] sins, and in Him there is no sin [essentially and forever].

6 No one who abides in Him [who lives and remains in communion with and in obedience to Him—deliberately, knowingly, and habitually] commits (practices) sin. No one who [habitually] sins has either seen or known Him [recognized, perceived, or understood Him, or has had an experiential acquaintance with Him].

7 Boys (lads), let no one deceive and lead you astray. He who practices righteousness [who is upright, conforming to the divine will in purpose, thought, and action, living a consistently conscientious life] is righteous, even as He is righteous.

8[But] he who commits sin [who practices evildoing] is of the devil [takes his character from the evil one], for the devil has sinned (violated the divine law) from the beginning. The reason the Son of God was made manifest (visible) was to undo (destroy, loosen, and dissolve) the works the devil [has done]. (I John 3:5-8 AMPC)